Mostly I'm the Ass
I really have to work on this and make a conscious effort not to tell myself stories that have no basis in reality.
I think my assumptions feed my anxieties...i assume something is going to happen, or i assume somebody thinks a certain way or will act a certain way and consequently i become very anxious about the event or that person. I'm very good at awfulizing and i vow to change that about myself
And most of all
PS. sometimes my hunches are right though ;)
4 comments:
Great post. I learned a long time ago that assumptions get me into trouble.
Mary
"Hunches" come from your gut. Assumptions come from your head.
Sometimes we have to assume, because we're not given all the facts and we need to make a decision NOW. Those times we just take our best stab at it knowing that we could be wrong.
But most of the time, it's just a natural inclination to "fill in the blanks". And when we do that, and then act on those assumptions as though they are facts, it can lead to all kinds of trouble.
Assumptions often do feed anxieties and personally I've found worrying to be generally unproductive. What is worry except negative visualization?
Visualization is a powerful tool, and it works just as well negatively as it does positively.
When you find yourself awfulizing (love that term ... very descriptive) STOP and replace that picture with a more positive one, even when you don't think it's very likely. It helps, if only to remind yourself that your assumptions can be wrong.
Feel free to ignore me ;) just had to add my two cents as this is a concept I've struggled with myself.
I found this to be a very informative post. Assumptions are such dead beats. Hunches are much better bets. I hope you go by them from now on. I'm sure I will.
XOX
I'm supposing an assumption is supposed be be a suppisition that supposedly leaves one with less than a supplementary feeling of being sure of oneself.
:0) ;0) ;0) I can safely say I suspect you will assume I have not a lick of sense after reading that first sentence, if nothing else. :0)
I'm feeling silly Gabi. LOL
Don't sweat the small things. One hundred years from now...who will know.
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